Jump to content
GreysAnatomy

Lawyers - what do you like to talk about at firm events?!

Recommended Posts

As an incoming articling student, I find it hard to relate to older associates and partners. Lawyers : at firm social events, do you prefer when students talk to you about your practice or your social life ? Is there anything you secretly roll your eyes at? I understand that generally any topic is good and keeping a conversation is a big part of practicing the law - but any tips would be appreciated! 

 

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Posted (edited)

Are you asking how to be normal at a social event? Lawyers are people so just have a conversation like you would with anyone else.

Edited by FingersCr0ssed
  • Haha 1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

As a junior, I tend to ask senior associates or partners about their practice first, and let them guide the conversation if they want to talk more about their social life. This is mostly because I'm a fairly private person so I prefer to talk about my practice, rather than my social life, and I assume everyone else feels the same way until they show otherwise.

Be polite, confident, and respectful, and you'll be fine.

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Movies, TV shows, sports, the weather, what you did last weekend, anything other than my practice please.

  • Like 5

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Summer plans, vacation plans, have they been relatively busy... anything that makes them talk about themselves (which lawyers love) while you nosh on the delicious free food 😄

  • Like 4

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Lawyers love talking about themselves, so just ask a few questions about their work or life, and they will go on and on and believe everyone is having a good time.

  • Like 5

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Talk about how you believe workplace policies have become unreasonably restrictive when it comes to relationships between lawyers and students.

  • Like 5
  • Haha 8

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Posted (edited)

It's more about what you shouldn't talk about haha. Avoid politics, sex or religion unless you're 100% confident you both hate Trudeau.

Here's an acronym for small talk questions: FORM (family, occupation, recreation and motivation). Motivation refers to why they do what they do. For example, "what got you interested in insurance defence?" Before getting into the FORM questions, try to find something in the environment to comment on to start the conversation. For example, "isn't this spread of crab cakes great?" 

A few more tips:

Download the sports net app and read a few articles. I swear only 10% of people actually like sports, but it's so accessible that it's great conversation material. 

The weather has been a conversation opener in Canada since Champlain's time. 

Shop talk is great but don't gossip at other people's expense. It'll come back to haunt you. 

Edited by grishamlaw
  • Like 1
  • Haha 1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Basically every in firm social event repeats the following:

Hey X, how are you.

Good, you?

Good yea  How's work, busy summer?

Yea lots on the go. Holiday plans?

Nothing major, try and get a long weekend in. 

Great.

Yea.

 

Rinse and repeat until you get bored and spend the rest of the event talking to only the other students. 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

but what if i don't like travelling, no summer plans, i don't watch tv, movies or care for sports. what do i talk about? i guess there is that one socially inept weirdo in every office

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
17 minutes ago, levin said:

but what if i don't like travelling, no summer plans, i don't watch tv, movies or care for sports. what do i talk about? i guess there is that one socially inept weirdo in every office

Tell them you have no interests or passions other than your love of the law and helping people, then rhyme off the 5 most significant decisions in that last 3 years in that particular lawyer's field.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
4 minutes ago, TdK said:

Tell them you have no interests or passions other than your love of the law and helping people, then rhyme off the 5 most significant decisions in that last 3 years in that particular lawyer's field.

Might not be the best thing to say at an insurance defence cocktail?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
53 minutes ago, levin said:

but what if i don't like travelling, no summer plans, i don't watch tv, movies or care for sports. what do i talk about? i guess there is that one socially inept weirdo in every office

If all else fails, ask about Garry Hoy or, if you are familiar with who Garry Hoy is, tell the story.

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
35 minutes ago, pzabbythesecond said:

Might not be the best thing to say at an insurance defence cocktail?

Hey. Insurance corporations are people too!

  • Like 1
  • Haha 3

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
14 minutes ago, thegoodlaw said:

If all else fails, ask about Garry Hoy or, if you are familiar with who Garry Hoy is, tell the story.

Not to sound cold blooded, but was there ever any litigation out of that?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
4 minutes ago, pzabbythesecond said:

Not to sound cold blooded, but was there ever any litigation out of that?

No idea. I can tell you that the firm folded within 3 years of his death and he got a Darwin Award for the way he died.

I do wonder about those articling students. Did they get hired???

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I guarantee you, if there is a lawyer who doesn't like traveling, summer plans, tv, movies or sports, he/she (probably he, TBH) will be happy to tell you about it at length in a tone of voice that suggests he thinks it makes him better than anyone else.

  • Like 4
  • Haha 3

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Posted (edited)
1 hour ago, thegoodlaw said:

If all else fails, ask about Garry Hoy or, if you are familiar with who Garry Hoy is, tell the story.

We had a broken window a few weeks ago, and I studiously refrained from making any jokes. I was very proud of my self-restraint. We just had the new articling students in too!

Edited by Jaggers
  • Like 4

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now



  • Recent Posts

    • I think I once passed through Saskatchewan by train, and I've flown over it a number of times. But seeing comment excerpts in the sidebar attracted me to this thread. I was just wondering why OP is so against a lunch break. If she doesn't want to eat lunch okay, but why should other people be denied the opportunity?! Eating in class is problematic for multiple reasons (sound, smell, sight, spring to mind). And what's wrong with having a day off in the middle of the week, in which she could study all day at home, sipping old fashioneds?
    • I scored a 156 on the July LSAT and I'm seriously considering canceling my score. My poor GPA doesn't help my situation either. I consistently scored between 152-162 on PT's. My list of schools I'd like to get into goes something like this; McGill, Calgary, Queens, Dalhousie, Windsor and then Western. Any input, advice or general help would be amazing for me as I'm struggling with this decision.
    • Okay, listen here, ass hat. I like to do my reading at home, the way I've been doing it for the past four years during my undergrad. Obviously it worked for me since I got into law school. I'm not interested in lugging my books all over Hell's half acre trying to find a quiet corner of the library or student lounge to read in when I can do it from the comfort of my couch with an old fashioned. Furthermore, I don't need someone to block out time in the middle of my day for me to do my readings since I'm a night owl as is. It would be much more productive for me, and undoubtedly others, if we could set our own schedules. By the way, the period goes inside of the quotation mark. Idiot. 
    • On the bright side, having your thumb up your ass might prevent you from speaking out of it. 
    • At Dal we do not pick our own schedules in 1L. We're randomly assigned one of three first year sections (A, B, or C) and the schedule is completely determined for us. 
×
×
  • Create New...