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  1. Thank you for the input, I really appreciate it! School Psychology is where I'd want to end up in the long-run if I stay in education, and it would give me a lot more professional power to do good
  2. Thank you! I took some stuff out, I appreciate the heads up
  3. Alright, so here’s my story. I’m sorry if it’s a bit disjointed and doesn’t make sense, if I go back and edit I’ll chicken out of posting. I grew up in a very crazy situation, but the long story short version that my father was very abusive to my mother. Unfortunately, as is common with women who have experienced domestic violence, another abuser made his way into my mother’s life. I was about 8 at the time. I feel that the details are too much to post online, but years of emotional and verbal abuse against my mother, siblings and I ensued. As a result of that I tended to default by hiding myself in my school work, so I was a very high achiever. My teachers had a sense of what was going on, and really stepped up to help me. I was so fortunate and blessed, and they had a huge impact on me. My mom is also a teacher and when she’s well, is extremely gifted at making kids feel like they matter. I recently finished my first, moved out and began my second degree in education. I’ve spent the last 16 years acting as a buffer between my mom and my step father. I took the brunt of the abuse, especially after my older sister moved out. My mother recently called me in tears about an incident that happened in public. I just kind of snapped. How the hell this relates to becoming a lawyer: Law has always been something I’d been curious about, but I think years of feeling “lesser than” as a result of emotional abuse have made me hesitant. A few of my law professors really encouraged me to consider it, but I always brushed it off because I struggle with imposter syndrome. I began to consider law In my third year of my undergrad, when my birth father was charged with murder. I began questioning everything. When I was little, a young lawyer took my mom’s case when she was trying to keep my siblings and I from our father, and since she was a single mother he didn’t charge her anything. Without his help I don’t doubt that my father would’ve killed us. It’s very sobering to think about how much I owe to the legal system for protecting me and the people I love. It really got me thinking about how I could help other women and girls who are experiencing domestic violence, or who are at risk. I needed a 3.9/4.0 to apply to the teacher preparation program (my province is insanely competitive for teachers right now), but only need a 3.7+ to apply to certain law schools. Out of curiosity, I took a diagnostic LSAT and got a 162, and because I didn’t believe that was possible, I did another one and got a 164. I feel a bit overwhelmed by that fact, since I never considered myself smart enough for something like law. I chose teaching because I love kids, and I experienced directly how influential a teacher can be in the life of a child. However, there’s a lot of situations that teachers are powerless in (like most jobs, there’s red tape), and it’s really frustrating at times. I’m not really motivated by money or prestige, but I was left wondering if I could have the same or greater impact elsewhere. I know that’s probably very idealistic, but it lit some kind of fire in my heart. The stuff with my step father has only fanned the flames. First question: can you really help people in law? Then there’s the flip side of this. In my undergrad I got really sick and was diagnosed with an incurable, and eventually terminal disease. I’ve been in remission for two years now and I may still live a long and happy life, but chances are that I have less time than other people. I was fortunate enough to win the lottery in terms of life partners, and he has been so supportive of me throughout that entire process and has never wavered. However, we want children and I’ve heard that many lawyer-parents regret being lawyers or wish they had more time. If I apply to law school now, I’ll finish articling when I’m 29/30, which is when we’d want to have children. I know this is probably the most inopportune time, and I’m worried that I won’t be able to give my kids the love and attention they need. I know this probably all sounds ridiculous, but it’s a legitimate fear. Most of the lawyers I’ve spoken to, especially family lawyers, have told me to go the other way. Are there any of you who’ve had good experiences and are happy with your careers? If I do go into law, will my humility and lack of a competitive nature get me eaten alive? One lawyer I spoke to told me that if I didn’t have hubris, I’d never make it. Will my experiences hinder me, or make me a better lawyer? One lawyer told me that empathy can't be taught, and that it would make me a better lawyer, which was nice to hear. Advice and experience is really welcome at this point, thank you in advance for taking the time to read that beast of a post!
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