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  1. @Diplock I absolutely disagree with you that I'm wasting my time by thinking about ways the Law Society could help, but doesn't. Maybe in a few years I'll be in a position to push for expanding the amount of counselling that's available to articling students. That would certainly help future articling students, even if it doesn't immediately help me. I'm also not wasting my time by reaching out and asking for support. If I didn't do so I would not make it. If you don't want to offer empathy just don't get involved.
  2. @godsplan I've definitely thought about leaving. I just don't have the resources to be unemployed. Also, I'm under the impression that another firm might be better, or it might be the same or worse. If I hang in there until my Call then I'm guessing I'll have more options of where to work.
  3. Can anyone give me some encouragement to make it through the last few months? I'm honestly having a hard time relaxing and enjoying myself over the holidays because I'm dreading going back there. It's been more of the same: bullying over insignificant things I didn't even do, gossip, and belittling lectures. I'm working on getting an associate job lined up so I can leave as soon as I get my Call to the Bar, but in the meantime I need a boost to make myself go back to the office. Also, I'm so disappointed with the Law Society. I tried to get more counselling sessions through the Law Society's insurance program, but they won't budge from their cap of six sessions per issue. The Law Society does nothing to help articling students who are being bullied and then cheaps out on insurance so that counselling doesn't even last a quarter of the articling term. They're willing to give citations to lawyers who are a little rude, but if a student is being abused they claim they can't do anything. Ffs...
  4. I read this question and I was really hoping someone would have wise words in response. Have you made any discoveries on how to apply for associate jobs? @mrn2008
  5. I am glad several of you assure me it's not normal to be yelled at. As long as there's hope of finding a firm with reasonable people (not perfect, just reasonable) I'll hang on and keep looking for a job post-articling. I am still concerned about the number of people, in this thread and real life, who advised me to keep my mouth shut rather than speak up for myself. That's messed up that there's no accountability for these people. Also, f you to everyone who says my expectations are too high. All I'm asking is to not be called names and screamed at, especially for things that have nothing to do with me. Yes, I can tell the difference between a stern, raised voice and screeching at the top of one's lungs.
  6. I understand that head injuries often cause behavioural problems. However, both the boss and the assistant seem to think they can treat me however they want, because I'm the only one who gets yelled at and constantly criticized at the office. They manage to behave themselves with everyone else, but don't offer me the same courtesy. If she was a bitch to everyone, then yeah, it would appear to be a symptom of her head injury. Since she can treat everyone else at work decently she has zero excuse for yelling at me, head injury or not.
  7. Thanks for listening, everyone. I was really feeling trapped and overwhelmed. I needed to vent, let off some steam before it hurts my brain even more. I think I will speak up and tell the boss that the behaviour is damaging my health and killing my productivity, if there's another blow up. I can't handle the "keep your head down and keep working" method.
  8. Also, I'd like to suggest that what's happening to me is a symptom of profession-wide bullshit. I've complained to some fellow articling students, and they told me that all female articling students are treated this poorly, so I know it's not just me. We all know that lawyers as a whole have much higher rates of mental health issues than the general population. So, if anyone wants to suggest that I'm being a wimp and should either suck it up or quit, I'd suggest that you STFU. I know I have problems with anxiety. However, when I'm treated somewhat decently, I do good work and I'm productive. I can handle reasonable levels of conflict, such as negotiating with opposing counsel, cross examining a witness, and convincing clients to do things they don't want to do, like go to court or pay something. I've succeeded doing all those things. What I struggle with is being treated like shit. The obvious question is why don't we as a legal profession set a standard of treating each other decently, instead of telling each other to suck it up when someone yells for no reason. I've worked in several different places before law, and I was never been yelled at. Why is yelling tolerated in law firms when it is not acceptable anywhere else? I mean, I know it happens in other industries, but in other industries someone who's yelled at would be encouraged to quit, for their own well-being. I bet this is part of why we lawyers have such terrible mental health, because we have this stupid expectation that yelling is okay and must be tolerated. If I were treated with some decency I would not have panic attacks at work. I don't expect to be treated like a princess, just not yelled at or ranted at for things I didn't do. I would not have to spend hours trying to calm down and simply pretending to work. We as a profession are digging our own grave by allowing this bullshit to occur. I'm still thinking of quitting.
  9. I'm still struggling. I called LifeWorks, the company that provides counselling to Law Society members, and I'm still waiting to get in to see someone. I don't think I can handle this. I keep freaking out (but not at work), and all the exercise, eating healthy and telling myself it's their lousy behaviour, not mine, isn't making a difference. Why the fuck does the legal profession tolerate articling students being treated like this? I keep having mild panic attacks at work because of the constant criticism about things I didn't do and would never do. Still no apology for the screaming and name-calling either, just more hypocritical ranting about kids these days behaving badly. I keep boiling over with rage at how these people can treat me like shit with zero accountability. If I call them out they can just fire me and they'd get off scot free, minus maybe some pay in lieu of notice. What's the point in keeping my mouth shut so I keep the job if it's destroying my mental health?
  10. If you're considering moving to greener pastures, bear in mind that cost of living in Winnipeg is dirt cheap compared to other Canadian cities. $40,000 a year might sound low until you realize you can rent a nice place for about a third what the same place would cost in Vancouver or Toronto.
  11. Aaahahaha, this is hilarious but also super helpful. Voodoo for the win.
  12. Got to work today and the boss said his wife can be "difficult" so in future to ask him to ask her if I need software training. The boss at least said he ought to have told her he wanted me to ask her for training. The wife, on the other hand, has not apologized for her atrocious, incredibly immature behaviour. Let the record show that she's a godawful bitch who doesn't take responsibility for her actions. I wasn't really expecting her to apologize anyway, given her pattern of shitty behaviour towards me. No, I haven't said anything to her or to the boss. I'm venting here because if I don't I'll explode.
  13. I know I can't talk back and I'm for sure going to start looking for a new job. What I'm asking for is practical advice on how to cope if she screams again despite my efforts to stay away from her. I have problems with anxiety, especially when someone treats me badly, which is why this is so difficult for me. And yes, I'm looking for treatment, but there's no overnight fix. Has anyone been in the same boat who can share what helped them?
  14. I know I can't change them and that it's a bad idea to criticize the boss's wife, no matter how justified. I will for sure avoid her as much as possible. I don't know if I can handle it though, bring screamed at for absolutely nothing. Is it normal for articling students to be treated like that? How do people cope?
  15. What saying, politely but seriously, "I'm happy to listen to feedback and instructions so I can improve, but name-calling and yelling are unprofessional and unacceptable"?
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