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  1. So one of the biggest reality checks I ever got was when I went from high school to undergrad. I was a brilliant student and I identified as a brilliant student and in my peer group I was the “smart one” and my exhausted single parent never had to worry about me because I was always just so good at being good. And in my first year I absolutely shit the bed. Like several C and C- grades, papers coming back with red ink all over them, and my sense of worth and identity went *poof*. It was tough. Really tough. If I wasn’t the smart one, then who the fuck was I? My future plans went from being Something Really Impressive to being, you know, maybe the barista that everyone really likes who always has their first novel on the go down at the corner coffee shop. At 18 I was ready to mail it in and give up and just accept that I wasn’t going to make anything of myself ever and my life was over. This is a very common experience. It’s part of the transition between being a Young Adult to being just a regular adult. You learn you aren’t the greatest, you learn you aren’t that special, you learn that natural talent really cannot beat hard work and good habits. You figure it out. I figured it out, began studying smarter, worked harder, planned the next five years out, and managed to stay in University. I went from C’s to A’s. I got into law school. It was fine. But it was hard. I say all this so that it won’t sound patronizing when I point out that some of this is probably just the agonizing and awful process of growing up. We don’t talk a lot about these private struggles, especially among us overachievers, because they come across as weird and almost self indulgent. But it’s real. So chin up, and keep going. It’s going to be fine. Give yourself a break, plan what you can, work at what you can, and let the rest go. As the woman said, your choices are half chance. So are everybody else’s.
  2. Just make sure any info you share here can be shared. I know some of these things can be confidential so hopefully any answers are ok to give
  3. If you want to travel, take a year and travel. Don’t conflate a desire to travel with an academic plan.
  4. I am so glad you posted. There is no concern about throwaways for this purpose. You matter. You are more important than any job. And there are supports to help you. Reach out to the people the other posters have mentioned. You aren’t alone!
  5. It depends on the charge, the circumstances, and what you can honestly say to your Law Society. You should probably seek some legal advice.
  6. There is no doubt that “who you know” is helpful and you are getting a head start. I have found the real value in Knowing People early on is that it assures people in the profession that you Belong. For that matter, it assures you that you Belong. That’s a pretty big leg up. (Take it from a person who didn’t, and had to put in years and years before establishing a network from zero, feeling like an imposter most of the time!) In terms of it actually assisting your career in terms of you getting clients, lots depends on that. But I agree with the earlier poster who said you shouldn’t graft your whole future on the assumption that your network will keep you afloat. Treat it as window dressing instead of foundational to your career and you will be better counsel for it, whatever you do.
  7. It is a great opportunity but only if it turns out you like it. To a degree all choices are part chance - but Crown work has the potential to give you an excellent career. You will be well off but not wealthy. You will be challenged. Your work will have meaning. But if it turns out you hate litigating you will be utterly miserable.
  8. Look, bias here for an employer is not “that is an objectively shitty school”. Bias here is “I want a student trained in the law my office actually practices because they need to know what the hell they are doing.” Law is jurisdictional. The reason those top top top schools get recognition here is because as a person who gets accepted to them, you’re presumed to be so stunningly intelligent that you’re then expected to be able to learn and competently practise Canadian law in a very short period of time: an assumption no one is prepared to make about a person going to Bond, or any of the other places with entrance requirements that are lower than those at any Canadian school. This is something students seem to have a very difficult time grasping. With Law, unlike with Medicine or Engineering or almost anything else, the geographical location of the school dictates what you learn, and the value of that education is largely restricted to that geographical area.
  9. In answer to this question I composed A Thing. It was fun to write and has been continued on and off over the years. Start here if criminal law interests you at all:
  10. Alright, let’s move on from that particular poster now. S/he won’t be responding after this, so it wouldn’t be fair to continue to engage.
  11. Hey, so moment of clarity for you guys: your worth as a person and as a future lawyer is not being determined this week. It feels that way. It’s ok to feel that way. Just trust me from the cold and logical distance of fifteen years from where you are now: this will be a single memory among many for what will be for the vast, vast, VAST majority of you, a very long and fulfilling career. Whatever happens, you are a person of worth and intelligence and skill. And getting a call back or not is not the final word on that and was never going to be. There is so much opportunity ahead of you. You can’t see it. But it’s there. Go to sleep. It will be ok.
  12. Wait wait wait. How the eff did you do an upsidedown smiley?
  13. I have an LL.B.... And for those new to this profession - It was relatively recently that the LL.B. Degrees in Canada were renamed J.D. - mostly to conform to the American trend. Short version: a Canadian Lawyer with an LL.B. is usually senior counsel. General caveat.
  14. Thanks for the contribution. Incidentally, assuming you have been Called. do you practice criminal law at all?
  15. Ok that is legit funny. ^ Rest of it - order a Perrier with lime and you look sophisticated enough that no one notices. I am not even that serious but if anyone really needs a back pocket magic phrase, order a goddamn Perrier with lime and move on to the substantive stuff like can you relate to these people and do you want to spend the next five years working alongside them.
  16. Never never never base a decision on some one else’s criteria. If, six months from now, you both decide to “see other people” or “it’s not working out”, will you be kicking yourself for moving on account of him? This had better be your decision for your future and your priorities - not his. It is ok to want different things at this point in your life. It is ok to take a break and check in again after first year. He might meet some one. You might meet some one. Do not tether yourself to a relationship at the expense of your future. You will regret it. Make sure this decision also works for you REGARDLESS of the relationship you want to preserve.
  17. I was a k-law and the first job I ever quit was as a lawyer. First time for everything.
  18. Be up front, polite, appreciative of your time and training - and frame it simply as an opportunity you want to pursue. Don’t dwell or apologize. Give some thought to the transition eg what will happen with your files. Wrap them up as tidily as you can, and draft a transfer memo. During your discussion with the boss outline your plans for passing work on. This neatly moves the conversation from Why you are leaving to the much more neutral How you are leaving. In short, be a professional. That’s what we all are, so own it and lead by example.
  19. I don’t think that is an unreasonable thing to say. A lot of defence work IS administrative - advertising and billing and accounting and figuring out if you are running a profitable business or not. Whereas Crown don’t have to do that. They go to the office, there’s a stack of files ready, and they dive right into it without the distraction of keeping a small business going. In terms of a a percentage breakdown of “time spent doing” it’s fair to say that Crown have the opportunity to do more legal work.
  20. Your mental health trumps everything else. It is ok to take a break. Give yourself time off, shelve your materials, go for a walk, see a movie, enjoy a good meal, call a friend. This is a marathon, not a sprint.
  21. I spliced this from the topic where some one was asking for support because this discussion is going to derail that.
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