Ok, but I can fall into downward spirals really easily, too. I don’t have a label for why that is but I know I’ve been that way almost as long as I can remember. But it isn’t anyone else’s fault or anyone else’s responsibility to get me out, though I appreciate the love and support of those who can and do. My meltdowns are my issue that I have learned to deal with as best as I can. I can’t control what other people do and say.
More seriously, people are not entitled to uncritical reinforcement of their self-esteem. No doubt it would make them feel better if they were, but they aren't entitled to that. If I want to wear fishnet stockings, great for me, but I'm not entitled to validation from others.
Maybe I wasn't clear.
If someone says e.g., hey, I have all As and B+, more As, and I'm worried my marks aren't good enough to find paying articles, doesn't that push people with worse marks (who are vulnerable) into downward spirals? Why is it wrong to tell the person with such high marks who asks on this board if they're good enough to find articles that they're being ridiculous?