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  1. theycancallyouhoju

    Mid-life crisis during Articling?

    I think the point is just that it’s not the end of the world and partners can sometimes frame it like it is. Someone once flipped on me when in first year I put the wrong threshold for some mechanic in, but we hadn’t even sent to the client let alone the other side. Some seniors talk like every single dot and cross is the line between good work and fireable offense and it’s just nonsense - the worst thing that can happen because of a first year is generally fixable and often mundane.
  2. theycancallyouhoju

    Mid-life crisis during Articling?

    True. The Nazis were, as we all know, big into the whole “find your own personal truth and pursue a life that accords with that without worrying about whether other people have different preferences”.
  3. theycancallyouhoju

    Mid-life crisis during Articling?

    The resentment is palpable. I’m not a slave. I’m a very well compensated professional who has the liberty to leave my job whenever I want - literally with a day’s notice. I spent my first year doing the grunt work because grunts do the grunt work - that’s a reasonable division of labor. Now I’m not and things are better. Lots of careers exceed 40 hour weeks. Many medical professionals, finance, tech, politics, entrepreneurialism etc. You chose to pursue something where lots of people are keen to sacrifice time. That’s not for you, and that’s as far as it goes. Stop blaming other people for having different interests than you.
  4. theycancallyouhoju

    Mid-life crisis during Articling?

    No, they aren’t. Lots of bankers work these hours. Lots of programmers. Lots of high skill workers have long hours. And of course you do the shitty work as the first year. What the hell else do you think would happen? You think the seniors should do the shitty work and the new recruits should do the good stuff? Why...? I don’t think it’s okay because it’s just the way it is. I think I’m an autonomous human who gets to decide what sacrifices to make when and where and I don’t blame other people for that. You were duped, that is a shitty thing to do to someone, and so you need a practical solution. Your practical solution is not going to be whine that other people are happy doing a job you aren’t happy doing.
  5. theycancallyouhoju

    Mid-life crisis during Articling?

    The best advice I got as a first year associate was from a fifth year woman who has since left the firm to go in house and work reasonable hours. She said - on the far end of lazy, people will leave their phones at home when they go out on a weeknight and not answer emails. On the far end of committed, people will check their phone at 3am when they roll over in bed and answer emails/do work that has come up. Don’t think about either. Decide what you’re comfortable with and accept that there are consequences on both sides. Be you, do what works for you, and do not think about other people, because it will only make you unhappy and nothing else.
  6. theycancallyouhoju

    Mid-life crisis during Articling?

    And the point is you need to stop thinking about how much you resent that other people are doing this, and even how much you resent your employer for misleading you - the latter of those is reasonable enough, but it’s still an unproductive way for you to be thinking. Focus on you. It will bring calm and peace much easier. Just focus on what you can do to find a life you enjoy. Don’t worry about other people.
  7. theycancallyouhoju

    Mid-life crisis during Articling?

    K. But, like, I’ll make choices for me and you make choices for you, and then we can both be happy. I don’t get a thrill out of working this much. I don’t want to be in the office on Saturday - I want to be on my couch. But it’s a sacrifice I’m willing to make for now. It’s not one you’re willing to make. That’s all. Some people are willing to make the sacrifices necessary to make partner at my firm - I’m not. God bless them. That’s as far as it goes. Yes, there are people who can be healthy and happy working harder and more stressful than me. The world doesn’t revolve around me. That’s a good lesson to learn.
  8. theycancallyouhoju

    Mid-life crisis during Articling?

    Also, yeah man. I would say ask MAG lawyers what MAG hours are, not random internet posters who just say all government gigs are 9-5. I know lawyers who work 9-5 in government. They aren’t doing the cool MAG work and their jobs look boring to me, but I’m equally sure they’d hate my job and to each their own.
  9. theycancallyouhoju

    Mid-life crisis during Articling?

    No, if people lied to you I am, as stated, genuinely sorry nobody told you to take a firm with a pinch of skepticism when they say they value work-life balance. My firm will say that to students, even though we obviously don’t. I know very, very few lawyers who work 45 hour weeks in mid- to large-sized firms doing litigation or transactional work. Actually, I know none personally. I have heard of a couple on this site. But anyway, yes, you should always be skeptical when a legal employer says “sure everything here is ideal”.
  10. theycancallyouhoju

    Mid-life crisis during Articling?

    The more dire a situation, the more practical you should be. This seems to be a literal crisis for you, and you spend your day off (which, I’ll be honest, a whole day! Sounds quite nice) angry. That’s a dark place. So I’m saying this as a piece of real advice - stop thinking about the people who you feel duped you, and don’t resent or be angry at what is an institutional reality. You only have enough energy and time to focus on you and finding a life you want. Do that.
  11. theycancallyouhoju

    Mid-life crisis during Articling?

    You could have learned that before law school. Lots of us did. My point is you shouldn’t resent other people for your failure to figure out what a career looks like before you signed up for it. You need to focus on you, what’s within your power, what you can do to find a life you like, etc. and not worry about or be angry at the people who you feel wronged you - because the latter won’t help you.
  12. theycancallyouhoju

    Mid-life crisis during Articling?

    I am genuinely sorry nobody told you not to believe firms when they say they value work-life balance. Now that lesson is learned.
  13. theycancallyouhoju

    Mid-life crisis during Articling?

    And maybe I missed the part where you said you had a disability. If so, is that something you’ve discussed with your firm?
  14. theycancallyouhoju

    Mid-life crisis during Articling?

    When did I say quit being a lawyer? I said find a career that works for you. As the other posters said, there are lots of lawyer jobs like that.
  15. theycancallyouhoju

    Mid-life crisis during Articling?

    Because that’s their profit model. Stop blaming them for having different prefences than you. And yes, most of us do shitty, low level work for the first year or two. You can’t reasonably think it’s abnormal for the junior most person to do the grunt labor work.
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